Month: February 2026

my car knows best?

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Maybe you recall from some previous posts that I am dealing with a new car after twelve years of being comfortable with my previous car. Now I bought the exact same kind of car, but even so, apparently a lot changes in twelve years. My new car is very bossy. It seems to think it knows better than I do and consequently it does a lot of things without consulting me first. It bothers me that my car seems to think it knows best, rather than allowing me to be the one calling the shots. A battle is definitely brewing between my car and myself. It is a battle to decide who’s in charge.

I guess it’s not all negative however. For instance, when I get into my car, my seat automatically adjusts to a position that I have previously chosen and “set” with the controls. When I open my door to get out of the car, my seat automatically slides back, giving me more room to get out, I guess making my exit from the car easier. It’s a nice gesture on my car’s part. I guess I can live with that.

Then there’s the lights. My car is in charge of them. I used to be the one turning them on and off manually. Not so anymore. My car decides when the lights come on and go off. And my car does this with the “brights” also. My car turns them on when she deems it necessary and turns them off when she decides it is appropriate to do so. I have to admit though, my car seems to get this right. When there is oncoming traffic, she turns the brights off in plenty of time, so as not to “blind” the drivers in the approaching cars. She does a better job than I would do actually, because sometimes I forget to turn off my brights and I definitely don’t like it when approaching drivers fail to turn their brights off. I guess they don’t have a car that makes those critical decisions for them?

Then there’s the radio. Now sometimes I am listening to a favorite song or an interesting discussion or some news and I arrive at my destination but I want to continue listening for a few more seconds or minutes. In the past, I would turn off my engine to save gas but continue sitting in my car listening to the radio. I can’t do that anymore. When I turn off the engine, my car turns off the radio. So if I want to continue listening to the radio, I have to keep my car running even though I am sitting in a parking space or in my garage. Doesn’t my car realize that I want to save gas AND continue to listen to my radio program at the same time? Previously, the two were not mutually exclusive. Why should I have to choose one over the other now? My car refuses to negotiate on this point.

Then there’s the seat heater. My old car had this feature and I loved it. I could have it “off” or on “low” or on “high.” I was in charge of this decision. Now my new car decides if it is cold enough for the seat heater to turn on or not. I can see by the lights on the button on the dash for this feature if it is off, or if it has one, two or three lights on. Because it has been very cold this past month, I usually see three lights lit on the seat heater control when I first start out. But soon it has been turned off. Now if I were in charge of this decision, the seat heater would still be on. I like being warm. But my car has decided that my seat is warm enough and has made the decision for me to turn it off. I guess my car thinks it knows best. But I disagree. I really want to be the one in charge.

I have mentioned my car’s bad behavior in the carwash in a previous post. My car also does this when I pull into the garage. She beeps frantically, panicking because she erroneously believes I am going to hit what’s in front of me. But if I stop before her beeping starts, I am not far enough into my garage to allow the garage door to close behind us. My car does not understand this and no amount of reasoning on my part can change her mind. (if she has one, which she doesn’t – she has only preprogramed instructions better known as A.I.)

My car is also a bit of a hypocrite. She won’t let me play the radio once the engine is off, but she leaves the lights on after the engine is off and even after I get out of the car, her lights are still on, even as I walk away from her. I have a confession – I always stop a short distance away and watch, waiting to be sure she turns off her lights. She does, but what if she forgets? Leaving car lights on is what drains your battery and then your car won’t start. I once had that happen with the interior ceiling light of my old car. I turned it on to search for something, then shut the car and walked away. When I returned, the battery was dead.

Another thing my car does is turn herself off when I am stopped in traffic. She restarts automatically when I take my foot off the brake. I guess this is good because it should save gas, thereby saving me money, and that is always a good thing. Although I have noticed that sometimes my car restarts when I am still stopped in traffic. I don’t know why. Did she just decide on her own that she had been idle too long? Who knows? I thought that was my decision to make – when to take my foot off the brake and activate my engine, but I guess not? Ultimately, my car is making that decision for me.

And so I am participating in this battle of the wills with my car. Who is really in charge here? Much of the time, I feel like it is my car who is making the decisions. She won’t even start if I don’t have my foot on the brake. I feel like this is unnecessary. My old car would start without that as long as it was in “park.” In fact, with really older cars, we used to start them with one foot on the gas to rev the engine, to get it going if it was having trouble starting. (of course the car was in “park”)

My car will beep alarmingly if there are cars passing to the right or to the left of me. She beeps when I pull in or out of parking spaces if she thinks I am getting too close. (sometimes that is the only way into or out of a parking space – you cut it close, but you make it – you have a visual of the situation)

I guess my car is just looking out for me. She is trying to protect me from harm with all the warning beeping going on and with the working of my headlights for me. She tries to save me gas, and she turns off her own lights and locks herself up as I walk away. I had to turn off the lights and lock my old car myself. I kind of liked being in charge of those things. Although, I guess if I forgot to do those things I would end up with a dead battery or a stolen car or the contents of my car taken. So maybe my new car does have my back. Although she does lock herself up before I am done unloading the groceries and this is annoying.

Still, I have to ask myself if my relationship with my car mirrors in some aspects the relationship that I have with my Heavenly Father. Is it a constant battle for who will be in charge? Do I question whether my Creator knows best? I certainly question whether or not my car knows best. I feel like my A.I. driven car (pun intended) has an agenda and I’m not really sure what it is or if I can trust it.

My Heavenly Father definitely has an agenda for me, an agenda He does not hide from me, an agenda I can trust because I can trust Him. He’s pretty upfront about His plans for me and His intentions towards me. In Jeremiah and Isaiah respectively, I read –

” ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ ” (Jeremiah 29:11)

“Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; He rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for Him!” (Isaiah 30:18)

Jesus told His disciples –

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (John 10:10)

Psalm 121 also makes clear to me that my Heavenly Father does have my back and (unlike my car) does know best –

“My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip – He who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, He who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord watches over you – the Lord is your shade at your right hand; the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. The Lord will keep you from all harm – He will watch over your life; the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.” (Psalm 121:2-8)

” . . . in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.” (Colossians 2:3)

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

“I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like Me. I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say: My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.” (Isaiah 46:9-10)

God knows best – my car? not so much . . .

sincerely, Grace Day

what fuels the fast?

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Although the better question might be “Who fuels the fast?” not what. Either way, this organized period of prayer and fasting that my church has been observing is drawing to a close officially tomorrow. Tomorrow is day twenty -one. Then what? Do I and others who have been doing this return to gluttony? (assuming gluttony is the opposite of fasting) Is fasting considered only a temporary fix? And just what is it that is supposed to be “getting fixed” by the fast in the first place?

I think the idea of the fast in general was that it would make room for something much better in each of our lives, if we accepted the challenge of fasting from something. The choices are many although the most common choice seems to be fasting from food or from certain types of food, such as sweets. Many I know were fasting from particular foods or from favorite soft drinks or from sugar or from caffeine. Jesus set the standard pretty high when He went into the desert for forty days and forty nights and fasted.

BUT – Jesus didn’t just not eat. He did something. He prayed. It wasn’t about what He wasn’t doing so much as it was about what He was doing. Praying! That’s what sustained Jesus during His time in the desert – prayer. That’s what fueled His fast – prayer. We read in Matthew 4:4 –

“Jesus answered, ‘It is written: Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ ” (Matthew 4:4)

Jesus was spending His fasting time with God, being sustained by God’s living word. Maybe that’s why my church’s guide is titled “Prayer and Fasting”? Prayer is time I spend with God. Prayer is what fuels my fast. God is Who fuels my fast. God’s Living Word is the food that gives me life. Moses reminded the Israelites of this when he told them –

“Take to heart all the words I have solemnly declared to you this day, so that you may command your children to obey carefully all the words of this law. They are not just idle words for you – they are your life. By them you will live long in the land you are crossing the Jordan to possess.” (Deuteronomy 32:46-47)

Jesus said something to His disciples that shows me another way I can both fuel and fill my fast. Jesus’s disciples were concerned about Him not eating, and this is the conversation that ensued –

“Meanwhile His disciples urged Him, ‘Rabbi, eat something.’ . . . ‘My food,’ said Jesus, ‘is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to finish His work.’ ” (John 4:31 & 34)

So following Jesus’s example, I want my food also to be doing God’s will – going where God leads me, doing whatever He asks me to do, serving those He asks me to serve – this is how I fill the spaces fasting leaves empty. Make no mistake. Something has to go. That’s a part of fasting – letting something go in order to make room for something better, something more necessary, something essential. This will be costly. But it should be costly. King David said this when Araunah offered to give David for free all that King David needed to make an offering to God –

“But the king replied to Araunah, ‘No, I insist on paying you for it. I will not sacrifice to the Lord my God burnt offerings that cost me nothing.’ ” (2 Samuel 24:24)

Fasting is costly. Whether that cost is in calories or in time – fasting comes with a cost. Whether I’m giving up a food group or an activity from my daily schedule – if it is costly, it will leave a space. Reminds me of the words to the Christmas carol – “let every heart prepare Him room.” Preparing room or making room means letting go of some things, perhaps many things, in order to make room for something or for someone truly essential to enter in and to fill that newly vacated space in my life. That’s fasting’s purpose – to help me make room for God. When I invite Him in, I want to have a place in my heart and in my life already prepared to receive Him.

“Lift up your heads, O you gates; be lifted up, you ancient doors, that the King of glory may come in. Who is this King of glory? The Lord strong and mighty, the Lord mighty in battle. Lift up your heads, O you gates; lift them up, you ancient doors, that the King of glory may come in. Who is He, this King of glory? The Lord Almighty – He is the King of glory.” (Psalm 24:7-10)

My Heavenly Father wants to come into this mess I call my life and stay with me through it all. Why would I not invite Him in? He is ready and willing to fill my empty life with the fullness of His abiding Presence.

“Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with Me.” (Revelation 3:20)

“Jesus replied, ‘If anyone loves Me, he will obey My teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.’ ” (John 14:23)

lift up the gates! throw open the doors! let the King of glory make His home with you and with me!

sincerely, Grace Day

Lost and found

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I couldn’t believe my eyes. It had been there all along. I’m talking about my missing Sunday newspaper. I assumed it had never been delivered because about three weeks ago, Sunday was the day of the all day snowstorm. Afterward, my driveway had been cleared, leaving mounds of snow on either side. And our street had been plowed, leaving snow piled high on both sides of the street. I didn’t even bother looking for my paper that day or in the days afterward, because I thought it had never arrived in the first place. The bitterly cold temperatures remained with us in the days after the storm, as did the snow which continued to cover the ground.

So imagine my surprise just a few days ago, when upon arriving home from work, I saw my newspaper lying on the ground next to my mailbox. Enough snow had melted during the day to finally reveal the truth – my paper had been there all along! And my paper was no worse for the wear. It was wrapped in plastic as usual and it was not wet nor damaged in any way. However, this paper was now definitely outdated. It was literally full of yesterday’s news. Many things had happened in the intervening weeks, rendering the contents of my newly found newspaper virtually irrelevant.

Still, this discovery was an unexpected surprise and in some strange way a reminder to me not to give up on what is lost because there is hope that it might yet be recovered at some future time. Could it be that what I presume is lost, might not be lost after all, but just temporarily hidden out of sight, buried beneath whatever life has dumped onto my life? (like a few feet of snow) It was just such an unexpected discovery, probably because I hadn’t been looking for my missing paper. I held no thought that it was even there.

I choose to take hope from my mundane miracle moment of discovering something I thought missing, gone forever – something that was actually there all along, just out of sight, buried beneath a few feet of frozen snow. I had only to wait for the thaw to reveal its presence.

This incident reminds me of a much bigger “lost and found” story, one with a happy ending. It is the story of the lost son. Unlike me, who had forgotten about my paper and had no concern for it, this father never forgot about his lost son. He was always watching and waiting for his absent son. Then one day this father’s faithful hope was rewarded. It happened like this. The son said to himself –

“I will set out and go back to my father . . . But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. . . . But the father said to his servants, ‘For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate.” (Luke 15:18-24)

That’s definitely cause for celebration – when what is lost is found! The father, who never gave up on his lost son during his son’s absence, said this to his older son –

” ‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ ” (Luke 15:31-32)

Be reminded, be encouraged – like the father, I will always keep watching, keep waiting for the thaw to reveal what has been presumed lost to now be found. Great joy awaits! God will find you! The lost will be found!

“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” (Luke 19:10)

that’s me and you and all those we love . . .

we can sing with the hymn – “I once was lost but now am found” – thanks to our Heavenly Father’s amazing grace – He is always watching and waiting for our return – ready to celebrate when we do

sincerely, Grace Day

so many haystacks – only one needle

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The old adage is – “looking for a needle in a haystack.” But what if there are multiple haystacks? That was my situation. I was looking for the proverbial needle in a haystack. Except in my case, there are many haystacks, too many haystacks to count, actually. I didn’t even know which haystack I should be searching through in order to find this very specific needle – a needle that I desperately needed to locate in a timely manner. Translation – I needed to find the title to my car and I have very important papers stacked and stowed away in many different places throughout my home. This search loomed before me, monumental if not downright futile. I had filed this title years ago. I had not planned on needing it anytime soon. But life always has other plans, and life was demanding this document.

And so I began my diligent search. Now I don’t remember what I did yesterday, completely. (days do have a habit of running together) So, how was I supposed to recall where I put this very important paper for safe keeping so many years ago? (yes, my car is old, but not ancient and no, I don’t have a safe, so any haystack of papers could be the haystack which contains this desired document – the title to my car)

As I flitted from haystack to haystack, my sense of futility increased. I should have been more methodical in my search but the clock was ticking. I would burrow in a little ways, give up and move on to another haystack. Rhetorical question – do all straws look alike? Do all pieces of paper containing various info have a certain similarity that makes sorting through them ridiculously time consuming? In the midst of this extensive search, I did discover some long-forgotten papers and mostly outdated documents that are no longer relevant. Maybe I can eliminate some hay and by extension some haystacks that are no longer needed. But would this bring me any closer to finding my needle?

As I reflected on my futile search for the ever elusive needle, I couldn’t help but think that my current predicament was sending me a message. Could this be a metaphor for life, a message that I would be wise to heed? Is my life so full of haystacks (which are quite perishable, by the way) – that the truly important, imperishable things in my life are now buried beneath mounds of hay and therefore impossible for me to access easily or even at all? Maybe I am more like Martha than Mary? And I know what advice Jesus gave to Martha –

” ‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’ ” (Luke 10:41-42)

Martha was maintaining many haystacks. Mary had found the needle and she was not going to let go of it, lest the needle be lost in all the hay that inevitably fills our lives. The needle is like the pearl of great price. It is the imperishable, hidden among the perishable under all the straws of the haystack. When the haystack catches fire, the needle is revealed.

“The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.” (Isaiah 40:8)

I can too easily let God’s living word get lost amid all the words that the world is constantly speaking to me and to anyone who will listen. Apparently there are about 2.2 million new book titles published every year. (I googled that) And one estimate is that there are over 158 million book titles in the world. That’s a lot of reading. More than I can hope to read in my lifetime. Haystacks full of books. My bookshelves are overflowing with books. But which book is the needle that I am searching for because it is the “must read” out of all the books or straws in all the haystacks?

That book is God’s living word, the Bible. How do I know? Well, consider what is said about this particular book.

“Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will never pass away.” (Matthew 24:35)

God’s word is going to endure. It will outlast all the other books full of the words of men.

“Your word, O Lord, is eternal; it stands firm in the heavens. Your faithfulness continues through all generations; You established the earth, and it endures.” (Psalm 119:89-90)

And God’s word has other essential benefits. Consider what Jesus said –

“Jesus answered, ‘It is written: Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ ” (Matthew 4:4)

God’s word nourishes and sustains me. King David had this to say about God’s word –

“How sweet are Your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! I gain understanding from Your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path.” (Psalm 119:103-104)

Moses instructed the Israelites concerning the words of God –

“Take to heart all the words I have solemnly declared to you this day, so that you may command your children to obey carefully all the words of this law. They are not just idle words for you – they are your life. By them you will live long in the land you are crossing the Jordan to possess.” (Deuteronomy 32:46-47)

God’s words are life to me. The Bible is the book I never want to lose, I don’t want it to end up buried under a haystack of other books. The Bible is the needle or more accurately the compass that directs me in God’s ways. In Timothy I read –

“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

and in Psalms King David says –

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. . . . The unfolding of Your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple.” (Psalm 119:105 & 130)

When you finally find the needle, you don’t put it back in the haystack where it is again lost. You hold onto it! I don’t want to become so distracted by or enamored with all the words in other books, that over time I accumulate so many other words, that God’s word is lost and forgotten, buried somewhere deep in a haystack. The psalmist has a better idea of where I can keep God’s word –

“I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You” (Psalm 119:11)

my heart, much better and much more accessible than being buried in a haystack beneath the weight of the words of mere mortals, words that are too often lies – words that do not lead to life

But I know whose words are true, whose words do lead to life –

“Simon Peter answered him, ‘Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life.’ ” (John 6:68)

“Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.” (John 17:17)

sincerely, Grace Day

what fills the fast?

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My church is getting ready to do twenty-one days of prayer and fasting. Most people think of giving up food when they think of fasting. And that is typical. But there are other things that one can give up such as screen time, (tv or computer) phone time, social media time etc. Most of us do spend an inordinate amount of time on our phones. So if we put our phones down – what would we do? What would we put in the space where our phones have been? How about conversation with an actual human being who is physically present with us? Do we remember how to do that?

As I look out over the high school classroom I am in today, most every student has phone in hand and eyes glued to their phone. No one is reading a book, no one is writing anything on paper or on a computer, even though they each have a Chromebook through the school. (Except for myself, I am writing this, so it does involve screen time for me, but I am not consuming social media content or scrolling randomly – I am writing this)

As I contemplate what I will “fast” from or in other words, what I will give up, it occurs to me that perhaps I should be giving at least equal thought to what it is that I will put in the place of what I give up or eliminate from my diet or from my daily schedule. This could potentially be more impactful than what I give up. After all, if I give up cookies but fill the void that leaves with ice cream, pie, pastries and candy, does this provide me any benefit? (I think the idea is not just to give something up, such as twinkies and Cheetos, but to then replace said food items or whatever it is that I give up, with a better option – say broccoli and asparagus?) This cautionary tale from Matthew comes to mind as I consider fasting and filling – what will I put in the space fasting leaves empty in my stomach, in my daily schedule, or in my life?

“When an evil spirit comes out of a man, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that man is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation.” (Matthew 12:43-45)

These words remind me that when I fast from something or eliminate something from my life – I had better be intentional about what I choose to fill that now empty space – because the void created by fasting will not remain empty. Something will fill my stomach or my time or my mind or my heart. If I don’t intentionally choose what that will be, lesser things will gain access and occupy the spaces in my heart, in my mind, in my daily routine and in my life – spaces that were meant all along for my Creator to fill as His abiding place. After all, I read in Ephesians –

“And God placed all things under His (Jesus’s) feet and appointed Him to be head over everything for the church, which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills everything in every way.” (Ephesians 1:22-23)

My Heavenly Father wants to fill all the empty spaces in my mind, my heart, my daily routine, and in my life. However, too often I let other things fill those spaces and crowd Him out. Why would I let fear, anxiety, strife, (mind) anger, hate, unforgiveness (heart) phone scrolling, computer time, social media (daily routine) and lack of identity and purpose when I live for myself (creates those empty spaces in my life – creates an empty life actually) – why would I allow these things to fill my life, leaving no room for the presence of God’s gift – His Holy Spirit? I want to make room for this gift God promised to me and to you and to each one of us who will make room for Him. Jesus told His disciples this –

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Before long, the world will not see Me anymore, but you will see Me. Because I live, you also will live. On that day you will realize that I am in My Father, and you are in Me, and I am in you.” (John 14:18-20)

maybe fasting is supposed to be about making room for the filling of God in me and in all the newly cleaned out spaces of my life?

maybe fasting without the filling of God’s presence is futile?

today I will start the filling by following these instructions –

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! . . . whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” (Philippians 4:4 & 8)

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” (Colossians 3:1-2)

let the fasting begin so that the filling may follow! I will use these instructions from Hebrews as my guide while I embark upon this journey of fasting, following and filling –

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider Him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:1-3)

“throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles” – that’s what fasting is asking me to do – eliminate what’s holding me hostage and make room for the freedom of God’s filling – I’ll keep you “posted” on my progress during this fasting and prayer journey (pun intended)

sincerely, Grace Day