That’s what we all want, isn’t it? – that perfect empathy – to be completely and perfectly understood. We are constantly feeling misjudged, misunderstood, marginalized and maligned by others, both by those we barely know and by those who know us well. We often think, “If they only knew what I’m dealing with or what I’m going through” – but they don’t and we don’t trust them enough to tell them. Or perhaps other people are simply too busy to notice, to listen or to care. Empathy requires our time, it requires our trust and it requires our compassion for someone beside ourself.
No wonder empathy is in such short supply and therefore so hard to come by. I am craving empathy from others while simultaneously, others are desiring and in need of the exact same thing from me, my empathy, understanding and compassion toward them. We are all in search of that perfect empathy from someone, anyone. But we are all human and we all fall short of being an infinite supply of empathy, compassion and understanding for each other.
The author of this song’s lyrics expressed it well for all of us when he wrote “Nobody knows the trouble I’ve been through, nobody knows my sorrow, nobody knows but Jesus.” How is it that Jesus has such perfect empathy for me and for you and for everyone created in His image? Hebrews 4:14-16 explains it this way –
“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”
Jesus is the One who has perfect empathy for each and every person always, including you and me. Jesus came here to walk awhile in our human shoes before giving His life as a ransom for many.
“Surely He took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered Him stricken by God, smitten by Him, and afflicted. But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed.” (Isaiah 53:4-5)
“Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made Himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to death – even death on a cross!” (Philippians 2:6-8)
“Carrying my sorrows, taking up my infirmities” – if that’s not perfect empathy, I don’t know what is. Jesus came to walk with us, to walk a mile in your shoes and in my shoes, and He is still doing this today. Jesus walks miles in each and every shoe – be they sandals, boots, high heels, moccasins or bare feet. Jesus doesn’t miss one step, one stumble, one valley, one steep climb, one desert path, one rocky road or one winding trail – He is there every step of my way and of your way.
We may not understand each other, but Jesus understands each one of us perfectly. Whatever we are going through, He is right there with us. He was with Daniel in the lion’s den. He was with Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego in the fire of the king’s furnace. He was with the Israelites in the desert. He was with the disciples in the boat on the Sea of Galilee during the storm. He is with me and with you today. He has promised He will “never leave us nor forsake us.”
His empathy towards us is perfect because He knows everything that we experience, everything about us. The psalmist says it this way –
“As a father has compassion on His children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him; for He knows how we are formed, He remembers that we are dust.” (Psalm 103:13-14)
Feeling misunderstood can be a weighty burden to wear but God, in His perfect empathy, sympathizes and lightens our load as He walks our miles with us.
“Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.” (Psalm 68:19)
If anyone felt misunderstood, maligned and misjudged it was Job. His three friends came to sympathize with him, but ended up judging and accusing Job, adding to Job’s already painful situation. Job did not receive any empathy from his friends or that which he did receive was woefully inadequate to say the least. Even Job’s wife did not have the empathy for him that he wanted and needed. But – even in his most dire circumstances, Job believed that God had not lost track of him, but knew exactly what he was going through (perfect empathy) and would bring him through it successfully. To this end Job declared –
“But He (God) knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I will come forth as gold.” (Job 23:10)
God’s perfect empathy is my hope. He knows the way that I take, He is walking with me, bearing my burdens, understanding my struggles, aware of my pain, and He will bring me forth as gold. Nobody may know the trouble I’ve seen, nobody but Jesus. BUT – that is enough – Jesus’s perfect empathy is enough to see me through this journey.
sincerely, Grace Day